It is amazing to see how many wounded saints go from place to place, hoping to find the perfect church. Many of these only end up getting wounded again. The reason for this is simple: They haven’t learned to guard their hearts!
King Solomon wrote:
“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23 NKJV)
Our heart is the most precious things we own. We need to guard our heart from bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness, because these are the things which cause us to be wounded by others. If we do not know how to recognize and deal with these things, they become issues that control everything in our lives. It is also what keeps us from walking in love with other saints.
The Holy Spirit wants us not to be an offense, just as much as He wants us to to keep ourselves from being offended and hurt by others.
The Apostle Paul was very careful not to give offense in anything he said or did. He wrote:
“We give no offense in anything, that our ministry may not be blamed.” (2 Corinthians 6:3 NKJV)
As we read through Paul’s letters, we notice that he didn’t make scathing remarks about all the people who tried to hinder his ministry. He was also careful not to speak against political leaders and authorities who opposed the Gospel. If he had nothing good to say about someone, he usually said nothing at all. It is a practice we all need to make in our lives. We need to learn to give no offense in anything we say and do. It is just another way of walking in love with those around us.
On the other hand, it is amazing to see how many saints are quick to take offense. They are easily hurt by a comment someone made, or by something a person did. They often carry the wounds of these offenses for years. These people end up wandering from church to church only to be hurt by someone again. This is the sad state of many saints in the Church today!
How do we guard ourselves from being hurt by others? The answer is simple: Do not allow yourself to be offended by anything a person says or does. The secret is found in us. We have the ability to either let people hurt us or not let them. The choice is up to us!
The key is to always guard our heart from being offended or hurt by anyone. We need to learn to walk in forgiveness. There will always be people who will say things or do things that may hurt our feelings. There may be some who will even betray us and do everything in their power to give us grief. Before that ever happens, we need to make the decision not to allow ourselves to be offended by anyone, but to be ready to forgive that person instantly.
When people try to hurt us, we need to realize who the real enemy is. The devil is the one who uses people to hurt us and wound us by the things they say or do. When we guard our hearts, we are guarding ourselves from his attacks. He is our real enemy, not the people he is using. We need to keep our guard up against all the fiery darts that the enemy throws our way!
Forgiveness must become a way of life for those who want to walk in victory over the devil. This is an essential part of living a holy life. This is also how to be spiritually healthy. Those who have wounded hearts are not healthy. What affects us spiritually, will also affect us physically and emotionally. We need to be healthy saints! Don’t you agree?
The Apostle Paul wrote how to be a healthy believer:
“Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so also you must do.” (Colossians 3:12-13 NKJV)
God wants us to be tender-hearted, kind and humble, so that we don’t hurt those around us. Then He wants us to be quick to forgive others, just as Christ forgave us, so that we are not hurt by what others do to us. This is how to walk in freedom from bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness – those things that cause us to have wounded hearts.
When we forgive others, we are acting like true sons and daughters of our heavenly Father. He freely forgives us for everything we do, and He loves us just the way we are. We need to do the same thing to everyone we meet!
You are holy, dear saint!
P.S: Do you know someone who has hurt you? You can forgive them now, and heal your wounded heart. God will help you do that, if you ask Him.
[All Scripture quotations have been taken from The Holy Bible, New King James Version, copyright 1982, Thomas Nelson, Inc.]